As it is sad, be near seemingly with the most close people sometimes is unsafe. Domestic violence can happen to anyone, female or male, young or old, single or married, regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity, or income level. In this article about what to do if you are a victim of domestic violence.
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence refers to the actions that occur in the family relations are characterized by psychological pressure and often are accompanied by beatings, threats and coercion to sexual acts.
Warning signs such as jealousy, name-calling, and possessiveness are red flags for an abusive relationship. Many victims of domestic violence report that the “crazy-making” behavior of psychological abuse by batterers is more devastating than the physical violence.
As a rule, domestic violence is characterized by the following features:
- If with you already have occurred physical violence, it is usually followed each time increases the frequency of its repetition and a degree of cruelty.
- Violence and abusive behavior alternated with promises of change and apologies.
- When you try to break off relations have escalated danger to the victim.
In addition to a fear, the reasons why the victims do not break relations with partners, include:
- Lack of real alternatives in regard to the employment and financial assistance, particularly for victims with children (often finances are under control of the perpetrator);
- Lack of housing, which the victim can not afford, and which would be a reliable protection for the victim and her children;
- Immobilization due to psychological and physical trauma (the injured person often can not to mobilize a enormous forces required for termination of the relationship and the beginning of a new life for themselves and their children, especially in the period immediately after the injury);
- Cultural and family values, calling for the preservation of the family at all costs;
- Partner, psychologists, courts, priests, relatives, etc., that convince the victim that she is to blame for the violence and that she may stop him, obeying the requirements of the partner.
The impact of violence on the victim
People living in a situation of violence and are the aggrieved party may experience the following feelings:
- horror, phobias, confusion;
- feelings of helplessness, powerlessness;
- feeling of fault;
- loss of self-confidence;
- anxiety attacks, depression;
- intrusive memories;
- suicidal thoughts;
- loss of faith;
- cessation of spiritual practice;
- changes in sexual activity;
- alcohol / drug addiction;
- the desire of revenge.
Medical examination of the victims of domestic violence reveals problems such as:
- Violations of the cardiovascular system (chest pain, tachycardia, irregular breathing (choking sensation), sweating, heat exchange violation;
- Violation of the gastrointestinal tract (gastritis, ulcers, chronic constipation or diarrhea, abdominal pain of unknown nature);
- Problems with reproductive health.
These are just some of the health problems revealed in the victims of domestic violence and are a consequence of it.
Victims of domestic violence is difficult to cope with fears, to overcome the consequences of violence alone. In this trouble need help and support! The first step is awareness of the unacceptability of domestic violence and the decision to break off the relationship! At this stage, it is best to enlist the support of loved ones, and a specialist who can help as soon as possible, painless and safe to solve this problem.
The more time has passed since the injury, the higher the level of qualification required in the provision of psychological support. Therefore if are saved long-term consequences of intra-family aggression, it is recommended to contact a qualified expert.